I plan to stay a virgin for as
long as possible. Only on my wedding night do a plan to change that. So you
might wonder how my virginity might affect my understanding of certain TV shows.
There are a lot of sex based things that you see on TV a lot. And I’m limited
to network television. I don’t see the shows that have actual uncensored nudity
in it. There are some things that I might not understand and possibly never
will unless I actually wind up having sex at some point.
What is my perspective? For
one, I do not understand the whole concept of flings. This should be known as
different in my mind to one night stands or casual sex. It is when a person
intentionally has sex with someone that they don’t really like that much, if at
all, in order to get back in the game or something like that. Why would you
choose to have sex with someone that you don’t like? These are often one time
things and we might not see these people again. But this might be one of the
problems that you see on TV that are far too common in real life.
Another issue I see is when
people are having sex with people that they haven’t known that long. This could
even lead to a prospect that I like to call love at first sex. Who wouldn’t
want their relationship to begin with we met, we had sex, and that was just the
first day of us knowing each other? This happened in the first episode of the
show Salvation. In a flashback episode of The Big Bang Theory, Leonard was
about to have sex with someone he didn’t know less than twenty-four hours ago.
In an episode of Family Guy, Bonnie talks about how it was only several hours
after meeting the man who would become her husband that she gave him her
virginity. Does anyone else see a problem with that?
So many other issues are
brought up. Some people, often women, regret having sex the next day. Then why
have it in the first place? Too many divorced couples wind up hooking up again
later and they often always regret it, or the women do. But why aren’t the men
seen as having a sexual conscience? There have been a lot of shows about men
who are constantly hooking up with women and they don’t care most times about any
negative consequences and often don’t wind up with them except for when they do
catch feelings for someone, but not always a hook up at first.
Often, a huge problem is the
amount of cheating that is going on. And often, they want us to root for those
who are being unfaithful to people. And another thing I wonder about is why
they can’t just put the people who are supposed to be that way together in the
first place. What’s with all the will they or won’t they crap? Does that
actually happen in reality? I haven’t known of any relationship like that in
real life. Do any of you?
What I do wonder is why
abortion isn’t brought up as an option more than it is. I’m glad that people do
not just mess up with pregnancy and then decide to kill the baby. Maybe it is
still taboo enough that they figure they don’t want to rock the boat that much.
Or maybe, they can have character that are so amoral, but never that amoral. Of
course, people can debate if it is actually amoral or not. I can think of only
two shows so far that have used abortion with main characters.
Now while I’ve written a lot
thus far about sex and television, I haven’t done much about what being a
virgin has to do with my lack of understanding about things that happen. There
is a recurring joke that I see on TV. It has a man on the phone or on some type
of connection while a woman nearby is doing something sexy. The man gets
distracted which leads to this exchange:
Man: Damn it!
Woman: Already?
I don’t get this. What does it
mean? Why does the live studio audience find this funny? Does it have to do
with erections? That’s my only guess, but it is hard to know that much. I still
am not fully sure what masturbation is. Does one have to be naked to do it? Why
are tissues involved at times? Why would a married man need to do it or do it
with pictures of someone who isn’t his wife? Does a man have to ejaculate in
order for it to count?
Perhaps my virginity is one of
the reasons why I don’t understand why sex is so common in TV. All of the
people who have it seem to enjoy it all of the time so it must be good. Why
else would people often get into trouble for it?
There are so many other issues
that I probably wouldn’t understand if I did have sex someday. Why would people
use handcuffs? Why agree to that? Why do spanking or other forms of beating? Do
some people really get a warped sense of pleasure out of it? And why would
anyone want to watch someone use the bathroom? That’s just messed up regardless
of which gender it is you are or which gender it is you would look at.
What are other oddities I’ve
noticed? For one, I’ve often noticed that people claim to have sex half a time.
How is this possible? What does that even mean? And there are all these sexual
positions that people often talk about, but you wouldn’t think that there could
be more than ten and that’s even more than I think is possible. (Of course,
that’s only if you do traditional, vaginal sex.) One show that I saw made it
seem like the orgasm was the end of sex. You have to end there?
Of course, there are various
issues with there is self censorship or other issues I see like that. I do not
know why they can’t be more straightforward so they don’t confuse the audience.
Like in an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond where the sculpture looked like a
vagina. They must not realize that not all of us have seen one. And if they
never say the word, then how are we supposed to know for sure? It took a lot of
watching that episode for me to understand it.
An 8 Simple Rules episode
brought up an issue that you’d think would be very important to address for
teenage boys: unwanted erections. Only they had never said the word so it would
have been confusing to some people. I had no idea what that was for quite some
time and I didn’t have a father to ask as he died when I was five. There are a
lot of guy things I might never know. Who would I ask?
I still don’t know if sex
scenes are just called that or actually have sex happening in them sometimes. I
do not know how often an actor or actress is naked when their character is. And
something odd that I notice from time to time is that there is some sort of
tell that virgins have. What? Apparently, you are having or about to have sex
and the other person (not a virgin), somehow knows that you are one. Is there
some sort of secret way of knowing?
What’s with TV shows often not
just spelling things out? Do they expect us all to understand? Maybe there are
reasons why things aren’t clear in some way. Maybe there are lawyers or others
who object to certain things being said or not said and we just have to fill in
the gaps ourselves (no pun intended). So there might always be confusion.
I think that is all I can
think of for this post. This is the last of the Sunday updates. Sorry to be
getting rid of them so soon after starting them. The Monday updates will or
should continue for the near future and there will be random other days posted
as well. If anything changes, I’ll let you know.
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